How Perspective Shapes Reality
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” — Marcel Proust.
Have you ever been overwhelmed by a situation, only to realize later that your suffering wasn’t about the event itself but in your reaction? This shared experience reveals a crucial truth: the circumstances we face, especially the negative ones, are not nearly as important as the state of being we bring to them. Throughout this article, I will explore how our internal state determines how we experience and respond to the world around us more than the external events themselves. By mastering our inner state, we can transform our reactions to life’s challenges, turning potential negativity into opportunities for growth and self-awareness. This empowerment allows us to take control of our lives and shape our experiences.
Let’s define “state of being” to understand this concept better. Your state of being combines your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. It encompasses how you feel, think, and act at a particular moment and reflects your overall well-being. We cannot fake our state of being because it is influenced by various factors, such as:
- Thoughts and Feelings: What we think and feel significantly affects who we are.
- Physical Health: Physical health can impact mood and energy levels.
- Environment: Where we live and who we spend time with can influence our state of being.
- Past Experiences: Our experiences can shape our thoughts and feelings.
- Stress: Stressful situations can negatively affect our state of being.
Each component contributes to our well-being and how we respond to external situations. For instance, some people might be triggered by another person’s comments or actions. It can bring up a host of negative thoughts and reactions that are influenced by a person’s upbringing and whether they experienced trauma during childhood. However, the same comment or action may not elicit the same response from another person. Therefore, while we believe we control our response, much of it is programmed into our nervous system.
Harnessing Neuroplasticity For Resilience
“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” — Charles Darwin.
Your brain constantly rewires itself based on your thoughts and experiences, a phenomenon known as neuroplasticity. This means intentionally cultivating a positive mindset can reshape your brain, making you more resilient, creative, and equipped to handle life’s challenges. A positive attitude can create new neural connections within the brain, helping you become more resilient and creative and enhancing your overall well-being. The power of a positive attitude to shape our experiences is truly inspiring and can motivate us to adopt a more positive mindset. Similarly, through an improved perspective, we can shape our perception of reality by better-interpreting situations outside us.
Sometimes, we tend to label situations as good or bad, which can work against us because we don’t have a clear picture of what is happening behind the scenes. For instance, you may be pulled over for exceeding the speed limit and receive a speeding ticket. This puts you in a bad mood, and you decide the situation is a negative experience. However, later that day, you hear on the news of an unfortunate multicar pileup that occurred a few miles up the road, and therefore, receiving the speeding infringement may have saved your life.
Does this resonate with you? Can you see that making assumptions about whether an experience is good or bad is based on our inner world and the story we bring to each experience? That is to say, your perspective can lead to different experiences, even in the same circumstances. Reframing negative thoughts through a neutral lens allows us to see what is happening in our reality through an unbiased perspective. This is important because we are not judging life based on what is happening to us but remaining impartial until we have a clearer understanding of the situation. Reframing situations we deem harmful helps us reduce stress, improve our mood, and increase resilience. We are hardwired to judge unwanted experiences as negative because it is part of our biological makeup. The mind categorizes events to help make sense of them and provide meaning and context for future situations. But this doesn’t always work in our favor. The key lies in mastering our mindset and becoming aware of our inner state of being each time.
Transforming Reactions Into Growth
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Viktor Frankl.
If we respond the same way every time something unwanted shows up, we condition ourselves to react the same way. This means we will continue attracting similar experiences until we change our response. It requires choosing a positive perspective, even in difficult situations. This may be challenging to do at the time. Still, if we can learn to detach ourselves emotionally from the experience and look for the hidden lessons, we can react differently the next time.
You see, many things that happen to us are beyond our control. Trying to control everything is a recipe for stress and negative emotions. Life is a complicated system; sometimes, unexpected events arise with little or no warning. Worry and anxiety are reasonable responses because these experiences can negatively impact our mental and emotional health. I’m certainly not discounting your response to situations beyond your control. I’m inviting you to become aware of your reactions so that, over time, you will respond differently to external conditions. This is why it’s essential to focus on things you can control rather than worrying about things you can’t.
I’m encouraging you to shift your focus toward your inner state of being and what you can control, such as your reactions, thoughts, and emotions. These factors are under your control, and you have the power to enhance your response through persistence and practice. Focusing on your inner state of being leads to improved well-being and your ability to adapt to unexpected situations. Similarly, we can use practical strategies to improve our mindset and emotional well-being, including:
- Mindfulness
- Meditation
- Gratitude practices
- Prioritize physical health
- Challenge negative thinking patterns
- Limit stress
We can also seek support from others, especially during challenging times. We can’t face life’s difficulties on our own because this creates additional stress and anxiety. I’m encouraging you to turn to people in your life, whether close friends, family, or co-workers, that you can rely on for emotional support. Also, do not discount the value of seeking different types of therapy or connecting with support groups, whether in person or online. Sharing our challenges and discussing what we are going through helps us alleviate stress and anxiety and create stronger social networks.
As we conclude, reflect on those moments when you felt overwhelmed by life’s challenges and consider how differently you might respond with a deeper understanding of your inner state. The key to mastering your mindset is recognizing that your state of being, not the external situation, shapes your reality. You can create a more fulfilling life by actively working to improve your inner state through mindfulness, meditation, or even a simple gratitude practice. I invite you to take control of your internal world because it is the lens through which your future is shaped. Start today, and watch how your perspective transforms your reality.
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Tony Fahkry
Expert Life Coach
